Kindness: A little act of kindness has a lot of weight

Be Kind

These are merely two words but the weight that they carry is astronomical. They have enormous power to turn around someone’s life and make this world a better place to breathe in. By being kind you are not being good to your milieu but also yourself. It is that path that comes with a guarantee of no regrets. If we all show a little kindness towards each other, we can bring some real change around.

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So, what is kindness? some big-time heroic superhero act? Doing tons of charity? Donating a huge sum of money? This is partially true because kindness is not only about doing something big for someone, though it is good if you can afford to do it. But you need not be wealthy or a celebrity or someone influential to be kind or bring some change. Guess what! we all can be kind with our gestures. Kindness is about how you are with everyone around you, your tiny gesture of humanity is what matters the most. You need not jump buildings to be a hero, you are already a superhero if you are kindSo, in short, kindness is any gesture that has the potential to bring even a little change in someone’s life or is done with an intention of goodwill, whether your words of care or your help to someone to finish some task or just standing with someone while they need someone’s presence in their life.

Who deserves kindness? Everyone, yes, it is that simple.

Be kind to:

the kind

the lonely

the sad one

the happy one

the unkind

the angry one

the one you think is least deserving of it

– abhya

Your actions can make or break someone’s day. Your humble words and deeds can brighten someone’s day. If someone is mean or unkind it means they are suffering too, they are in dearth of love and care in their life and they need your kindness the most. Your kindness towards such people can change their perspective towards others and it might inspire them to be kind. It can happen because if you are good to them you are filling a void in their life. We cannot guarantee anything, but we can always try to alter someone’s condition for good.

“Be kind to the unkind too, they are in dire need of it”


What small changes you can bring:

  • Don’t yell out of rage, try to understand the problem
  • Try to be humble with your words as much as possible
  • Don’t be unnecessarily mean to someone because you are having a bad day. Avoid being mean at all
  • Instead of judging and jumping to any conclusion, be more understanding
  • Don’t indulge in toxic gossips, it is someone’s life you are talking about
  • Help as much you can
  • Don’t indulge in any activity which can harm someone
  • Don’t mock someone’s condition, they are already suffering

These are just a few points, the list is limitless. 

While we look for answers everywhere to make things right but we fail to turn to simple solutions that already exist. “Be kind”, is a trite sentence but it is the answer to complex problems. If we are just a little less selfish and a little more kind, we are on the right track. I know, no one is perfect neither am I nor you are but your efforts to bring that positive change is worth it. So try to be a little more human by following the path of kindness!

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My new books: Da-Ight and The Fearless

Hello Gleamikins,

I am happy to announce that my two poetry books are out on amazon worldwide.

1) Da-Ight (paperback)

2) The Fearless (E-book, paperback)

You can get them through the link provided below.

Please check it out and share with your friends who like reading poetry.

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The link provided has links to all my books. Also you can check my books on amazon portal native to your country by simply putting my book’s names , if your country link is missing.

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”The Fearless” is available at discounted price for only 50rs in India and if you are a kindle unlimited member then you can read it for free anywhere in this world.


Da-Ight: Day and Night:

It is a collection of poems available worldwide on amazon in paperback format (156 pages). It talks about dark and bright phases of life. It exemplifies that life is a beautiful labyrinth of happy and sad moments. It is about different perceptions. It is about love and life. Da-Ight means, like after day it is night, in the same way, it is day after night. A bright shining sun is inevitable after a dark night.

This poetry book shows contrast through two different poems on a single matter in various ways. This book is written in such a way that poems on adjacent pages are connected in a certain way like; question and answer, two different perspectives, and dark and bright side of a same emotion or issue.

The fearless:

It is a collection of poems on love and life and it has two dedicated chapters respectively. It is 70 pages and is available worldwide on amazon in ebook and paperback formats.

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Hurt: Don’t fall back to someone who has hurt you

Are you someone who bounces back with the cracks in your heart to the person who gave you those? Does all your anger thaw when you hear a single sweet word from a person who shattered your heart? Do you become oblivious of the trauma and hurt you went through because of that person when you see them? Do you simply forget about every moment of derision when they pour in words dipped in honey? If this is the case, then you need to flip your condition. This attitude is extremely venomous for you. You won’t realize, but by doing so you are ill-treating yourself. In this way, you are depriving yourself of the respect and love you deserve. You need to bolster your self-respect and magnify the love you have for yourself. 

“Forgive them but don’t submit yourself to them”

-Abhya pandey

I know I have left in you in a maze of mind muddling thoughts, but this is simply about respect and love for yourself. Firstly, I want to elucidate that I am a firm believer in forgiving others. I strongly feel that one should never lag from forgiving people and we all are human beings. It’s a deed of magnanimity. I want to convey that forgive them if they are sorry for their faults and they own their mistakes but don’t surrender yourself to their words. Be cautious while stitching your relationship with them, it might prick you. The person who has hurt you once can hurt you twice. You need to take your steps at a gradual pace while believing them.

“Forgive but don’t forget”


We have a tendency that if a person says sorry to us, we forgive and forget what happened. It’s better if you expunge small issues from your mind but this doesn’t apply to the elephantine amount of pain given to you by someone. Our problem lies in showing cent percent trust to the person who has hurt us for a lifetime. If they genuinely feel guilty, pardon them but don’t surrender yourself to them killing your self-respect. Another aspect is that their genuine sounding sugary words might be an act of sycophancy, they might have some motive of returning. If this is the reason of them returning into your life then in no time you will sink deeper in this quagmire of shallow words and boundless hurt.

Why do we allow ourselves to be a slave of the person who turned our world upside down? 

  • At one point in time, we loved and trusted that person immensely
  • Probably now also there is some amount of love for them which resides in our heart
  • We are not able to cope up with the vacuum created by them and we feel that if we let them back we can fix it
  • When it comes to self-respect, it has been overshadowed by our affection for them
  • We don’t love ourselves enough
  • This dearth of self-love leads to the constant need of someone in our life

What should we do?

  • Forgive but be strong not to submit ourselves to someone who has hurt us
  • Love yourself and learn to be happy with yourself
  • Firstly learn to respect yourself then only expect others to respect you
  • Be careful while trusting someone who has hurt you in past
  • Be good to them but don’t get swayed with their words
  • Let them in but don’t let them take over your mind

So, learn to love yourself, then only you can handle other relations in the right way. Don’t let anyone take advantage of you. Forgive people but don’t let them control you in any way. Love yourself enough so that you don’t open the door of your life for the wrong beings.

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How does a depressed person look like?

How is the face of a depressed person is? What sort of behavior a person who is going through depression portray? Who led them to be this way? What were there conditions that catalyzed them into being depressed? I know what most of you will answer. A major chunk of us has a set perception regarding the behavior and condition of a person who is depressed. We envisage them as someone with a constant frown, someone who has abandoned the worldly life. Well, the majority of us imagine a depressed person to be lamenting round the clock. We picture them to be the ones living in seclusion, cut off from the entire world. It’s our visualization that tells us that there must be something extremely negative in this person’s life or someone else must have wronged them which made them slip into depression. To be honest, your imaginations lied to you. Whatever you have thought is partially true.

“Depression has no face, a person with a mellifluous smile can be suffering from within”

-abhya pandey

 Being more precise, this commonly thought perception doesn’t apply to every depressed person. Depression is far more intricate than you can imagine. We often confuse “Depression” with “Sadness”. It is not merely sadness. It is a mental disease and it needs to be treated by a professional. Additionally, to help someone around, as I always say we can be kind, understanding, non-judgmental, and most importantly listen to them. Let me elucidate it to you the actual condition by underlining a few things about depression:

  • Depression is a disease which needs a proper treatment
  • It can inflict anyone around the universe
  • The one who is successful, rich, a person with an amazing family and friends has can be equally depressed as the one who is lonely and is not doing great in life
  • Nutritional and hormonal factors also contribute to depression
  • Not every depressed person sobs, a person with the perkiest persona might be depressed
  • A person who seems to have a perfect life and looks jovial can be depressed
  • A depressed person has no set characteristics, they might laugh, cry, smile, have friends, and perfect family, socialize, party, or be lonely

One of the most common comments that I heard whenever I tried to speak about any sort of mental issue in past is you are smiling, you don’t seem depressed. Which explains that we still have lots to understand about depression or any sort of mental issue. So, please understand that depression is a serious disease and you can help someone by merely being kind. Don’t judge them, let them speak. Also from now on if someone confides in you saying that they feel depressed, don’t assume that they are just sad or they have a perfect life so they can’t be depressed. Be kind, don’t judge them!

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Emotional Independence: You complete yourself

Are you someone who always craves for a company? Do you constantly feel the need to have some other person around to make you happy? A close kinship with someone is a must for you? You are someone who feels lonely in your company. Do you? Does your merriment depend on someone else? Do you always feel lonely? Is there a void in you? If yes, then you are headed in the wrong direction. The bad news is that you are entirely dependent on someone else but the good news is it’s never too late. Just learn to be “emotionally independent”. Let’s talk about emotional independence.

What is emotional independence? It is feeling whole in yourself. When your joy, sorrow, anger, and any other emotion for that matter depends only on you. I know my words have baffled you and you must be intrigued that how is this possible. I am not talking about the “additional” happiness that you derive from your friends, family, or socializing. When you completely surrender every emotion of yours to the second person, that is where your fault lies. A void has made an abode in you. It needs to be understood that your happiness should be yours, it shouldn’t change because of someone. Only you are a constant in your life, rest everyone and everything is ephemeral. No doubt family and companions help, but you shouldn’t mold your emotions according to them. You should be your priority.

“Tame yourself to be merry with yourself, rest everything will fall lambently in place.”

-Abhya pandey


I have always been a home person, the one who is an introvert.I always used to feel lonely and was emotional. Slightest of their actions that were unpleasant or might be pleasant to me of the other person whether it be my family or pals used to rush my pulse. I would would go maudlin, be overwhelmed, extremely irked, or furious within the fraction of seconds because of them. I was in constant need to talk to someone. If I reminisce of that time, I could go to any lengths even if it was wrong just to make that person stay even if that person acted as venom to me.

Why was I like that? The simple answer is I never gave priority to myself. It was because my happiness relied on someone else. I used to laud my close ones for their achievements but failed to pat my back when needed. Learn to clap for yourself, you are sufficient. I learned to not make anyone else my priority. My experiences taught me to detach the dependence of my emotions from someone else.

“No one should have the power to be a compass to your emotions”

-abhya pandey

Emotional independence is a strength that will prevent you from breaking into shards. Few things to etch in your mind:

  • You complete yourself, no one else is needed
  • Saviour! that you can be for yourself
  • First, learn to applaud yourself, every other admiration is secondary
  • Your hands are enough to catch you from tumbling
  • That smile should come from within not because of someone else. It is a bonus if someone else does that for you
  • You are never alone, you have you

So, be emotionally independent, stop depending on someone else. It won’t do you any good. That happiness which is derived from others is fleeting. Permanent is the one that you experience due to yourself.

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Dating: Are you just after a trend or actually ready?

You must have read the topic, if the question above has somehow compelled your mind to think, then you are on the right page. This particular talk is for people in general who feel that there is a kind of vacuum in their life as they are not in a relationship or dating someone.I have observed a myriad of people around me and one thing that I have noticed is that there are plenty of them who feel incomplete without a partner and another chunk of people just want to date because they see other people dating and they feel that they are not advance enough.

Though there are a lot of other reasons too why people crave for a romantic partner. Some beings date for the right reasons and are actually ready for it. Which is a good thing to do as it is definitely one of the integral aspects of our lives. But today I am going to focus on two of the most unreasonable, reasons due to which lures us to come into a dating relationship.

Which are,

  • Firstly, we are so much after following this trend of dating. Given the competitive nature of this modern era, We don’t wanna lag behind others in this field too. You know, we feel if we are single, we are old fashioned or not trendy enough. We want to be in vogue. But is it the right approach? An elephantine no, one should date only if they are ready to. It has become easier to be in touch with people these days due to social media, dating apps, and the liberal nature of our society. This is a great thing, but we should leverage it by using these things wisely. Dating is not a trend to follow, you date someone for yourself. Never Date if you just want to do it for the sake of doing as it is a serious part of your life.

Story 1:

I remember once I was speaking to an acquaintance of mine and she was whining about being single. I asked her a simple question, why do you wanna date? After a few minutes of stuttering, she said, all my friends are committed and I feel so uncool and like an outcast. 

It is not only about her as she epitomizes the kind of thinking the majority of us have when it comes to dating.

  • Secondly, we want to fill some kind of vacuum in our life by being in a relationship. We might be successful in doing so. But is it the right approach, no, it’s toxic in the long term. We have to be emotionally independent because it is healthy for ourselves and also our potential partner. We shouldn’t be dependent on others to feel complete emotionally. We can contribute to a relationship healthily only if we feel content in ourselves.

” We are fully equipped in ourselves, we just choose to live in oblivion”


Story 2:

If I rewind a few months, I was lamenting in front of my mom about being single. After a few hours of deep conversation with her I realized, I was just feeling low and am not ready for it. After that, I started focusing on my self. Trust me I love spending time with myself and I feel whole in myself. I have landed to a realization that we all are self- sufficient, it’s just that we don’t explore our capabilities. If we choose to live in oblivion, a vacuum will definitely reside in us.

So date only if you are ready for it in every way. It shouldn’t be to compensate for other things in life. It should out of genuine fondness for the other person, mutual love, and care.

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Friends: Who is your actual kin?

There are millions of people on this planet. You come across a lot of people during your precious lifetime and build countless memories with them. But not everyone deserves to be in your thoughts. Merely making memories is not important. What matters is the quality of memories you have with that person, good or bad. The kind of effect that a person has in your life is important. Some of them can be just a stranger, an acquaintance, friend, or a best friend. Let’s talk about friends, have you ever wondered who is your real mate? Who deserves to be near you? If not, then you should start thinking. The kind of people who are close to you form a very crucial part of your life. They have a significant impact on your life in all possible ways.

” You should treasure the person, who is the same with you in your peaks as well in your lows”

– Abhya pandey

If good, then they can save you from all your foes, hold you when you are about to fall, be an ear to listen to you and, the list becomes ceaseless. But, if not, then they become the foes themselves. They can prove to be toxic too. Yes! your choice of friends matters to this extent. Your life is small and extremely precious. The kind of people you let in your life can alter many things. So, I will describe the traits of two common sort of people who are actually close to you to help take you a better decision :

Person 1:

  • Is with you in every moment of merriment
  • Accompanies you at every party and celebration
  • Praises you for your success and is a part of it
  • Though they avoid you in your lows
  • Their words will be superficial
  • They will try to win you with their sweet shallow words
  • Not a part of your struggle
  • Not a good listener to your sorrow
  • Not there for you selflessly
  • They are with you for your success
  • They are actually sycophants
  • In the end, they turn out to be toxic for you

Person 2:

  • They are a part of your struggle
  • With you in your thick and thins
  • Apart from the celebrations, they hold your hand during your fall too
  • They never leave your side
  • They listen to your lamentings even a plethora of times if they have to
  • They have no hidden motives to be with you
  • They will give you the taste of reality rather than being shallow
  • They will love you with your flaws
  • They might fail to laud you for your success, but will never fail to catch you when you fall
  • They are selfless

I will choose person 2. You should also make the right choice. It is in your hands. I know sometimes we might be deceived but we can be careful. Let in people who truly value you.

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Depression: Are you actually there for them?

What do you do when you see someone suffering from depression? What’s your reaction when you see someone sad and lonely? Your instinctive words are “I am there for you”. You console them saying that they are not alone in this and that they have your back. But my point is do you really mean it? And what do you mean when you say you will be by their side? Have you actually tried to dive into the fathoms of their mind and understand their situation? No! In most of the cases, it is all superficial. You get touched by their condition momentarily and you don’t bother to decipher what’s actually behind that depressed soul.

“When you say you are there for them, mean it”

-abhya pandey

The truth is they need you beyond your words. They need to be understood. This depression is far more than sadness. It’s complex and needs to be dealt with intricacy. The ones suffering don’t need your shallow sweet words or a social media post citing how much you support this cause. So, when you see someone inflicted with depression, be with them. Firstly, be a good listener, listen to them over and over again because they need to be heard. It will help in emptying the baggage formed by their suppressed emotions. Don’t judge them, instead understand their condition. Talk positively to them and motivate them. To heal them entirely, you need to be present with your heart and soul with them.

If you actually want to help them, etch these things in your mind:

  • The people who are suffering need someone who can listen to their silence. Be their kin
  • Even if they look fine, they might not be okay. Check up on them
  • They might reiterate their same problem million times, listen to them patiently every single time
  • Motivate them to live life to the fullest
  • Make them realize their self-worth
  • Most importantly don’t judge them because you can never see the world through their eyes
  • Try to mend even the smallest thing in their life because little things matter
  • They have lost faith in everyone. Make them realize the goodness of people around by being good to them
  • Fill their life with positivity
  • It will take some time for them to be healed. Be patient with them
  • Never give up on them

Be with them all along. You are not a doctor but you are a human, you can save someone’s life.

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Veiled: Why are you afraid to show your true self?

I know. I know that it’s not you or if it is you, then not the whole of you. Are you scared to show the world what’s within? Are you scared of being you? Or just intimidated that you might not fit in this perfect world? Many of us are scared of presenting our real selves to others. We just pretend to be one of them to be a part of their herd and be appreciated by them. Moreover, we tailor our life according to their opinions. We filter our thoughts before speaking and step back to speak our hearts out. It’s like the world is the driver of the chariot of our life. The weight of the opinions of society is elephantine, it alters the route we wanna take. It filters our true color.

“Boldly show the true color of your heart, without the filter put by the opinions of this world”


My question is, what really should matter to us, the sycophancy of this superficial world, or our joy. It is very simple, it should always be our happiness. The shallow applauds from others have no value, what’s precious is a true smile on your face after following your heart. Furthermore, I believe that one should always stand out rather than becoming a part of a herd. Be unique, you need not fit in, make people laud your true persona. Opinions and views of others shouldn’t affect the way you wanna lead your life. It shouldn’t stop you from expressing your thoughts.

Just remember a few things:

  • Never edit your words according to the world, you are free to express your views
  • Your happiness comes before anything
  • Speak your heart out
  • Don’t shy away from unraveling your true self
  • Never strive to be perfect, strive to be “your true happy self”
  • Just mute the other voices around, listen to your heart
  • Carry your flaws like a jewel, no one is perfect
  • Love yourself

Don’t hide your true self from the world. Be you!

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Imprisoned: Learn to live your life

What according to you epitomizes a satisfying life? Having a fulfilling job, a loving partner, and great friends? Are you actually living your life or you are stuck in the tangles of the worldly things? I believe that most of the people are busy ticking off the things out of their society’s list- the list of the things the society expects them to do. I can witness that they are busy living other people’s dreams instead of sprinkling some life on their dreams. We tighten the noose on our dreams and our life to fit in the category of successful people created by people around us. By doing this, are you actually successful in living your life? I don’t think so. Your life is a success only if you follow your dreams rather than following the herd mentality. Though you are a free bird your life is as good as the one who is incarcerated. You have imprisoned yourself among the ceaseless expectations of your society. This is not living, this is not breathing.

“Don’t impress others, impress yourself”

– abhya pandey

Just once try to unshackle yourself. Just live like a bird. Fulfill what you expect from yourself. Wander if you want to, work if you love to. Chase your dreams rather than working for the sake of doing it. Do what you love to do. Some things to keep in mind:

  • Follow yourself rather than someone else
  • Take up a job only if you love it not because someone wants you to
  • Marry only if you love someone not because you have to
  • Dance, sing, travel, enjoy! because you deserve it
  • Give time to yourself before others
  • Chase happiness rather than numbers
  • If you are happy then only you can make others happy
  • It’s never too late to do anything, you can always restart
  • Cherish the little things
  • It’s okay to be not perfect, no one is

Life is when it is embellished with the moments that truly make you happy. So, follow your dreams, follow your heart. You can make your life beautiful by tailoring it according to your heart. You deserve to be happy.Happiness is following your heart. Before learning other things, learn to live your life. Doing this will lead you to bliss.

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